Friday, June 20, 2014

Feminism



My mother cautioned me many years ago about feminism.  I come from a  very capable line of women who get in and do.  We girls have put down tile, built things and been very capable.  My Grandmother was an executive in a man's business world back before the idea occurred to many women to work. It was what was needed for her situation.  But, it gets dangerous when we stop believing we need the men in our lives.  We compliment each other.  We have different jobs, men and women.  I am a very capable woman who likes to learn to do everything, but I still want men to be men and I can see the blessings of women being women.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Lessons I Learned about child rearing from My Dad Teaching me to Water Ski - Father's Day

When I was a pint sized nine year old my Dad decided I needed to learn to water ski. 

He knew a few things about teaching a child to ski. 
My Dad positioned me near the shore in water that he could stand in with the boat out in the deeper water at the end of the ski rope.  My Dad taught me to keep my ski tips straight and together. 
He taught me to keep the rope tight between my skis and hold on tight.  I sat in the water with my body in a C shape and because of his encouragement I knew that I needed to be prepared to stand up as I came out of the water. 
 
 

My Dad said "Hit it!"

His friend gave the boat some gas and I wobbled and partially stood before I crashed back into the water.  Patiently, the boat was turned around and moved into place for our next try.  I don't know how many tries it took to get me up onto my skis, but I remember the time that my dad spent tenderly teaching and guiding me.  I remember my dad giving me a push upward as the boat would begin to pull me. 
 
My pint sized body was propelled out of the water as my dad gave me a boost to help me to stand.
I was skiing!  My little nine year old body flew along Deer Creek Reservoir.  I was doing it!  I was skiing!  I remember however looking back and thinking, my Dad can't see me.  It was hard for me to go and ski out of his sight.  I had left him behind in the water.  But, the thing I did not understand was the feeling of pride he must have felt as he watched me disappear.
 
As a mother of seven I am learning about watching my children go.
Now I am the one in the water.
I am here preparing them, keep yourself straight...
Hold on tight to what we have taught you.
Look up toward the Heavens for your guidance.
Now we are saying, you can do it, we will give you a boost.
It's okay that you made a mistake, try again.

 

And then I watch them go.

I watched them go and return from their missions tearfully, but with so much pride.
They had struggles and triumphs while they were out, but they did it!
I have a whole house full coming up in various stages. 
A whole house full who are learning to go out on their own.
My young adult children have expressed worry at times over needing a soft place to fall. 
"How will I ever be an adult Mom if I keep having to come back for help."
The thing that I learned form my Dad teaching me to ski is this how families work. 
We watch the kids go, but guess what? 

 

Just like the boat comes back to where you are camped on the beach, the kids come back. 

 
Hopefully they come back often as the years go by.
We will always be here for them to come back and visit and to give each other a boost of encouragement. 
 
 

This is what family is about.

Thank you Dad and Mom for all that you have taught me.  Thank you for being there for me.  Thank you for teaching me to stand and for the encouragement you have given me over the years. 
 

Happy Father's Day Dad! 

 
 
 
 

Monday, June 9, 2014

Both of our Missionaries are home now!

Three of my children and some friends that hung out with us on Sunday.
 
 I am so pleased to have our two oldest home from their LDS missions.
I have missed the youth that they bring into my home and the extra measure of fun that they bring.
Our daughter served 18 months on the East Coast in a different area from her brother who has been home several months now.
 
We are so glad to have all seven of our children under one roof again if only for a moment.
I know life will take off and they will begin their lives.  But, what fun for me to have them all here again for a short time before they get under way.
 


Saturday, March 22, 2014

Utah Coalition Against Pornography Conference - I am Getting Educated

Fight the New Drug

I am getting educated
I was fortunate to be able to spend the day becoming a more proactive and informed parent at the Utah Coalition Against Pornography Conference today. 

Beyond Filtering
I have always advocated filtering, but there is so much more that we can do to protect our families. Our children need to know what our values are and they need to understand why Pornography is dangerous. 

My Favorite Speakers
I listened to 4 speakers and one of my favorites was Clay Olsen of Fight the New Drug. And the medical geek hiding in me enjoyed the lecture by Dr. Donald Hilton. He talked about Neuroplasticity and it's relationship to pornography. Wow, I loved learning about brain function. I also heard Jill C. Manning Ph.D talk about our family media habits. 

Great Resources are available
Over all I left feeling encouraged that this is something we can fight against as a community.   I you hope you'll check out Fight the New Drug. I challenge you to talk to another person about it the dangers. If we talk about this we can spread the word about why pornography is harmful to society.
                                  
Where do I start? 
Teach your children about your values, and don't stop there. Teach them why Porn is so dangerous. If they understand the science they are more likely to decide for themselves that Porn is dangerous. We can empower ourselves and our children through knowledge.  And don't worry you don't need to be a science geek to teach the science. 

When do I start? 
Ask your children questions about what they know.  Have lots of little conversations about this topic along the way.  Be gentle and careful to nurture a loving relationship with your children.  Working to open the door to communication is important.  They need your support.

Be their ally. 
Kids need parents in their corner who will not just talk to them, but listen to their thoughts about this issue.  You may feel squeamish about talking to them, but gather courage.  We must teach them about this topic.  The pornography industry never sleeps and puts a lot of effort into reaching them from an early age.  If you do not teach them, the industry will.
This is a challenge that we face in our society today. 

But, we are up for the challenge. 

 

Monday, February 10, 2014

Our First Missionary Comes Home Tomorrow - No Thank You Deer

Drum roll...
Our son will return tomorrow evening after serving his two year mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, or the Mormons in the Eastern United States.
We are so excited!  We have talked to him and our daughter twice a year and emails on Mondays.
We are so excited to see him in person and hug him.

We have moved the kids around a bit and chosen a place for him when he gets home. 
Next the kids car needs a few repairs and registration.
He will go back to work quickly when he returns, even though I would love to have his undivided attention for a couple of weeks.  He is so used to being very busy that it will be best for him to come back and get to work.  I know his life will change a lot over the next year. 
We are so excited to watch him as his life unfolds and he begins his schooling.


In addition to being fun loving our son is a hard worker.  I am so excited to get to hear his mission stories as time goes.  We have communicated every week, but to get to hear his laugh and see him again.  I am pretty excited!  I have heard people say they miss the letters when their missionaries get back.  I can appreciate that.  But, I am so happy to take each new on stage as they come.
 
 
Our daughter is also a missionary in the Eastern United States just a state away from her brother.   She and her companion hit a deer this last week!  Our poor daughter was driving.  They were where they were supposed to be doing what they were supposed to be doing, so it was considered no fault. 
But, the deer was doing what deer do and cars and deer do not mix well.
   
The damage to their car was pretty extensive for hitting a deer.   They have been doing a lot of walking since then.  Hopefully their car will be sorted out soon.

Tomorrow evening I will be the Mom of just one missionary again.
Though I am so glad to see my son again, I am so thankful for the opportunity and blessing that this has been in my life.  When I rocked my son in my rocking chair those many years ago, I sang "I hope they call me on a mission."  I had hopes for him to go and serve others as he served the Lord.  I had hopes for him to go and act upon his faith and belief in Jesus Christ our Savior.  I had hopes that he might help others to find joy and happiness.  I feel so blessed to have been the mother of two missionaries at the same time. 
Having these two gone at the same time has been a challenge at times.  But, the challenge has a huge silver lining.  The amazing example that these great kids have set for their younger siblings is significant.  We have cheered for them and prayed for them as a family.  We are so happy for them and for their desire to do good in the world. 

One day to go!  
 


Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Bootie of the Day - Basic Bootie Assembly and Pattern

Two layers Reclaimed Wool with a layer of thin fleece sandwiched between for body.
 
 
 
Fleece and Flannel
 
Sandwich the shoe laces before sewing

Tack the elastic to the seam allowance. 
See the elastic is sandwiched
Set your machine for a large stitch length and width on the Broken Zig Zag Stitch.
Stretch the elastic fully and then sew over it.  Feel with your finger and follow the line of the elastic.



 
Trim back the fleece between the layers and then Zig Zag the fleece together to finish the seam and reduce bulk.
 
Before Trimming
After Trimming and zig zagging the edge.
 

Pattern

 

Monday, January 13, 2014

Today's Baby Booties - Pattern

Use buttons for newborns at your own risk, and surely not for razor toothed teethers. :)

I was so pleased when I found these vintage buttons in my stash.   Ready made unifier. 



The first pair I made from this pattern.
Update-
Pattern 
I recommend cutting on the outer line.
You choose, but the inner line produces a very tiny bootie that is less fun to work with.
  You can choose which bootie back you would like to use.
I have done a tutorial on the bootie back that is tied with ribbon or shoe laces.  I hope to get back to this one soon and do one for the one you see above.
http://ldsmomtomany.blogspot.com/2014/01/bootie-of-day-basic-bootie-assembly.html
Published originally on 11/18/10

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

3 Seam Footies - PooPockets Free Pattern -Check out the Boy Variation


If you looking for a quick pair of baby shoes, booties, footies, slippers or whatever you want to call them... They were designed for babes, but I get a lot of hits for American Girls Dolls.  If you are looking for a free pattern this might just fit the bill. These are a very quick sew and they are cute as can be. I no longer have any small people to put them on, so if you make them I'd love to hear if they stay on. (The only pair I ever had were preemie sized and my preemie did not wear clothes until he was much bigger than they were.) They are low on the ankle, so without socks they may be quick to kick off.



Today I added a simple button down addition to these little shoes. 
Remember, whenever you put clothing on a small one with razor sharp teeth, you need to keep an eye on the buttons.  I would feel so bad if someone's baby choked on a button.  Use buttons at your risk.

Side strap pinned in and folded over out of the way for sewing.
I made a simple little pattern and you can make one too.
Make two copy of Kimi's Footie Pattern (read on below.)
Take one of the patterns for the Upper and make a piece like this out of it.
Use the full width of the pattern piece. 
After the seam allowances the strap will not cover the whole toe of the Footie.
 
I made this piece the same width as the Upper Pattern. 
Cut 2 right side up and 2 bottom side up.
You can easily make a pattern piece too. 
And if you'd like it to be wider make it wider.  Your imagination is the limit. 

If you make your strap out of the pattern piece you will have a better chance of making it fit well.

During my diaper sewing years I corresponded briefly with the owner of New Conceptions Patterns. I like her patterns and liked her too. The Poo Pockets diaper pattern is one of the diapers types that I had in my stash in those days. It is reasonably priced too. I made them turned and top stitched, and did not care for them serged. (Here is the Footie Pattern, but visit her site first.)

My teen aged daughter saw these and said, "Oooh, those look comfy. I want some."

Originally published Dec 27, 2010